The Do’s and Don’ts of Hiring Family Law Attorneys


It’s always difficult to know where to go to for help when it’s about legal matters. Hiring a lawyer is something we always associate with trouble or more specifically, getting out of trouble, which is why when we have to hire one, it always makes us break out in nervous sweat and feeling like we need to get this over with fast.

When you’re going through a divorce for example, it can be really stressful because it isn’t only your heart that breaks but that of your children as well. When the concept of “we” and “ours” suddenly turns to just “me” and “mine,” it helps to know that there are people who have your back when push comes to shove. Also, with the many legal ins and outs that come with the process, it is important to hire the best lawyer to keep from it from being a long, drawn-out financial and emotional nightmare.

The most important thing to remember when hiring the best lawyers is do find someone who is not only a right “fit” for you but also someone who is competent and experienced enough in the matter you want them to resolve. Do remember that working with a lawyer you feel comfortable with and one you can talk to enables you to really tell them what you want, making the entire process easier to bear.

However, just because you can talk to your lawyer doesn’t mean you can tell them all about your anger, frustration, pain and sadness. Don’t ever think of your lawyers as therapists or life coaches because that is not their job. Since lawyers mostly get paid by the hour, it would be a serious waste of your money if you use your lawyers this way.

If this is your first time to hire a lawyer, do ask for referrals from family, friends and colleagues. There are private and sensitive information that you will be asked to disclose to help with your case so it is important your lawyer be recommended by people you trust. If you are still deciding on whether or not to get the divorce, it is best to consult with lawyers who are financial advisors, accountants or counselors so you can make more informed decisions.

Don’t ask a family lawyer about his track record. Instead, select someone who will treat the situation with the dignity it deserves and one will try to cause the least amount of trauma for everyone involved. In this light, don’t forget to ask the attorney as well if they can meet your needs and really help your case. Prior to the initial meeting, you should consider sending your potential lawyer by email the questions you want to ask as well as a brief history of the case. This will expedite the initial meeting so you can focus on more important issues.

And lastly do look for red flags. The lawyers who represent you should be professional, knowledgeable, responsive and communicates well. If for example you notice during your initial meeting that he tends to divulge personal information about past clients, chances are he’ll do the same to you. If they aren’t respectful of other divorce lawyers you are interviewing, chances are they’ll be the same towards you. Make sure you lawyer treats you with the respect you deserve and gives you the attention you need during this hard time.

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